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An Internet troll, sometimes referred to as a cyber bully, is someone who spends time on social media and online networking sites trying to draw other people into contentious, uncivil and sometimes utterly pointless conversations. Some hide anonymously behind their computers, phones and tablets or may even use fake accounts to cause misery for others…

Narcissistic people have a huge sense of entitlement but a weak ego and a false sense of self. They require constant attention, validation and admiration from others, often referred to as their narcissistic supply. But what happens when they aren’t as entitled as they thought, their schemes backfire or they lose their supply? This video…

To be ostracised, excluded by others can be one of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse in the sense that the aggressors don’t have to actually do anything except ignore their target. It can happen at work, in communities, friendship groups and even families. In this video I outline what it is, the affects…

Spiritual Abuse is quite an insidious form of coercive control as it is often carried out by a person in a position of ‘moral or religious superiority’, or someone the victims admire and look to for guidance and support. The abuse is often carried out whilst claiming to be either for the victim’s ‘own good’,…

An energy vampire is someone who takes advantage of other peoples good will and kind nature, draining their time, energy and resources and exhausting their patience. They are often self absorbed and can show a lack of critical thinking, self awareness, emotional intelligence or empathy, and leave others mentally and emotionally exhausted. In this video…

Stalking is defined as repeated and persistent unwanted communications, approaches and intrusions into someone’s life, into their privacy, and there are many levels to it. It can a form of mental assault. This video looks at the different kinds of stalker, (rejected, resentful, incompetent, intimacy seeker and predator) as well as the difference between when…

Many relationships go through difficulties from time to time and many can be resolved. However after studying over 2,000 couples for more than two decades Dr John Gottman found there are four attitudes and behaviours present in a relationship around how couples relate to each other that can predict with some accuracy relationship failure if…

Origins The person-centred counselling approach to therapy emphasizes the relationship between the therapist and the client. It was developed by a psychologist called Carl Rogers. He had been primarily working with children before turning his attention to working with adults. Rogers believed that everyone has the need to feel heard, listened to, understood in order…

‘Flying Monkey’ is the term given to those agents and allies that collude with an abusive person. Their role is to continue carrying out tormenting the victim on their behalf. If it’s during the relationship, the abuser gets to abuse by proxy as it’s other people that are getting their hands dirty. If it’s after…