Jealousy

Jealousy and envy are often confused. For example we may say ‘You’re going on a world cruise? I’m so jealous’. However in that case we are probably feeling more envious than jealous. We feel jealous when something or someone we think belongs to us is under threat. For example a partner or spouse befriending an old flame on Facebook, or them going on a business trip away from home with a young and attractive work colleague. Jealousy involves a lot of emotions which can be difficult to hold such as anger, insecurity, a sense of betrayal and so on. Like most emotions and sensations there is usually a healthy level of jealousy, for example it may help a couple appreciate each other, but what about when it becomes controlling? How about when it interferes with everyday life? Or it hurts you and others around you?

Jealousy can be corrosive to a relationship, It can leave you over sensitive, acting possessively and being hyper-vigilant. It can actually destroy the very thing you’re afraid of losing. A partner can feel drained, exhausted and anxious at never feeling trusted and constantly accused.

Counselling can help you understand and resolve your feelings of jealousy. It can help you recognize feeling a threat doesn’t mean there is one and to let go of trying to control others.

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