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    Grieving the loss of a loved one is natural. Although pre-bereavement grief may be different from the grief following a death, the anticipation of the death can bring up many of the feelings we feel following the loss of a loved one. We can experience pre-bereavement grief even when the prospect of death even becomes…

    Distress Tolerance Emotional dysregulation is a difficulty in managing difficult feelings. We all have uncomfortable feelings such as stress, anxiety, guilt, frustration and so on from time to time and in certain situations. We also have different levels of distress tolerance. Our reactions and responses are managed through emotional regulation to help keep a sense…

    Day Dream Believer Having an active imagination doesn’t make a fantasy addict. Fantasizing and day dreaming is not in itself a bad thing. Letting our mind wander and explore something we might enjoy is normal and healthy. Depending on our intent, we can fantasize over preferred futures and scenarios and it can help us work…

    When a narcissistic parent or parents have more than one child, they are assigned different roles within the family unit. These roles may swap and change at the whim of the parent, depending on mood or circumstance. If they have only the one child, that child may have to play more than one role. Here…

    In the narcissistic family there is a hierarchy. It begins usually with either a matriarch or patriarch, most commonly known as the head of the family. From there, there is a pecking order of partner and children in which everyone has their roles.  The head of the family dominates others through either overt or covert…

    Responsibility can be defined as taking accountability for something. We have responsibilities in work, as parents or as members of society. Sometimes however, we can find it difficult to accept or take responsibility for our actions, beliefs, behaviours or duties. Nothing to do with me Dave worked in a company that designed and built stands…

      Loneliness is not the same as being alone. We can enjoy our own company. We may even prefer to be on our own at times. When we want to be alone, we can find it restful and peaceful. We can become quite creative. Loneliness, however, is not having anyone to see or talk to…

    “Currently the death rate sits at one per person” Voddie Baucham Thanatophobia The fear of death, or death anxiety is known as Thanatophobia. It is often linked to other anxieties or phobias such as health anxiety, post-traumatic stress and panic attacks. Thanatophobia is a form of anxiety characterized by a fear of one’s own death…

    The Drama Triangle There are times when we all react to situations as victims. There are times when we really are the victim. Other times though maybe not so much. However, when we don’t take any responsibility for ourselves we will always react as a victim.  We can feel taken advantage of or betrayed. We…

    Here is the last in the series of diversion tactics used by manipulative people to distract others from their own malignant behaviours. Hoovering Narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths and other malignant toxic people often begin a relationship with you by being charming, polite, attentive and kind. This is known as hoovering. After a while, boundaries begin to…

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