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Often when struggling with anxiety issues such as phobias or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), many people feel challenged and even trapped by intense feelings of fear and uncertainty. I believe that in many cases it is the intense fear that people try to avoid by performing a rituals of some kind or trying to preempt…
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Trauma Bonding Trauma bonding refers to the attachment victims of abuse or neglect form with their abuser. Sometimes that attachment takes the form of obsessive thoughts of hatred or revenge. More commonly though it refers to a fear of, and loyalty towards the perpetrator. Because of that loyalty the victim may sometimes confuse this fear…
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Trauma bonding was a term first used by Patrick Carnes. Also referred to sometimes as Stockholm Syndrome, it is commonly associated with the submissive and loyal relationship that can sometimes develop between a hostage and their kidnapper. However the term actually refers to a wide range of emotions and reactions in any relationship where there…
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Sleep allows us to recharge from our stressful and ever complicated lives. It leaves us refreshed and ready to face another day and another challenge. But I think it’s fair to say that we all from time to time have uncomfortable nights experiencing bad dreams, insomnia, or restlessness. However if this becomes regular and chronic…
The term alcoholic normally conjures up an image of someone who is always drunk, dishevelled and dysfunctional. Someone who is perhaps unemployed and aggressive toward others. However a high functioning alcoholic (HFA), is someone who is able to hold down a job and maintain relationships. An HFA may not realise they have a problem or…
Here is a short excerpt from my latest book,Surviving Other People’s Self Esteem . It is a book about social acceptance and social comparison, and the lengths some people go to just to feel better about themselves by feeling better than you. “BEING OKAY I feel that as social beings we have a need to connect…
A while ago I crossed paths with an old friend I’ll call Dan I hadn’t seen since we were about eighteen. He was delivering goods to a shop as I was passing. I didn’t recognise him at first as he was wearing glasses and had gone bald, like his dad had before him. He didn’t…
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Ever get the feeling you’re no good at what you do? Worry that you’re not breaking a sweat when trying and that someone sooner or later is going to see through you as the fraud that you are? We all have feelings of doubt from time to time but sometimes when we are consistently unable…
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What do we mean by dissociation? Often our reality is often shaped by perceptions and beliefs. When these perceptions get a bit disconnected our sense of reality becomes uncertain and even blurred. For example sometimes we may be reading a book and forget what we’ve just read. Other times we may be having a conversation…
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The book ‘When it’s Him‘ is available now on Kindle through Amazon. It is a short book for men about different types of abuse and how it affects them. Please click on the link to take you to it. #whenitshim #abusedmen