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Assertiveness versus Aggression

August 8, 2016Darren MageeBlog category 1, Just a thought, Latest News

Sometimes people can find it difficult to separate assertiveness from aggression. Perhaps there have been times when others have asserted themselves with us aggressively and that we didn’t like how we felt about that encounter. Others may find it hard to assert themselves as they may have never felt valued or listened to, so out…

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Passive Aggressive Behaviour

June 23, 2014Darren MageeBlog category 1, Just a thought, Latest News

Passive aggressive behaviour usually comes from someone being put down or suppressed as a child. The feeling of resentment stays with them throughout their adult life, and they find it hard to break the connection between authority and those old feelings of worthlessness. Passive aggressive behaviour is usually triggered by a desire to please others. Reasons may include trying to…

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