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Category archive: Just a thought
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Co dependency has many different levels and take many different routes. The road isn’t always clearly signposted. However there are some signals that may not make sense at that time but may well help inform future processes. Many years ago when Dave’s nephew was just a little kid playing with plastic dinosaurs and toy racing cars, he was asked…
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Ok so it’s World Mental Day. What does that mean? What is your mental health? Hang on, isn’t mental health only something that happens to other people? I say that because I remember many years ago when studying counselling an old woman in her seventies, following me around the place I worked in talking at…
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Psychodynamic counselling aims to help clients with a wide range of issues such as anxiety, phobias, OCD, addiction, trauma etc. It is also particularly helpful in relationship counselling as partners explore the conflicts within themselves and their relationships around them. It comes from the work of Freud and subsequent psychoanalytical theorists who followed; theorists such…
Sometimes people can find it difficult to separate assertiveness from aggression. Perhaps there have been times when others have asserted themselves with us aggressively and that we didn’t like how we felt about that encounter. Others may find it hard to assert themselves as they may have never felt valued or listened to, so out…
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A traumatic event is a shocking experience for which our normal ways of processing and coping become overwhelmed. Reactions to such events vary from person to person but often lead to feelings of confusion and fear. Usually unsettling thoughts and feelings dissipate over a few weeks as the brain begins to make sense of and…
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It is believed up to one in five people could be regarded as having, as Elaine N. Aron researched in the 1990’s, highly sensitive personality traits. The Highly Sensitive Person may reflect on things more than others do. They worry about what others think and feel and prefer quiet, controlled environments over noisy, fast paced…
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Trauma Bonding Trauma bonding refers to the attachment victims of abuse or neglect form with their abuser. Sometimes that attachment takes the form of obsessive thoughts of hatred or revenge. More commonly though it refers to a fear of, and loyalty towards the perpetrator. Because of that loyalty the victim may sometimes confuse this fear…
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Trauma bonding was a term first used by Patrick Carnes. Also referred to sometimes as Stockholm Syndrome, it is commonly associated with the submissive and loyal relationship that can sometimes develop between a hostage and their kidnapper. However the term actually refers to a wide range of emotions and reactions in any relationship where there…
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Sleep allows us to recharge from our stressful and ever complicated lives. It leaves us refreshed and ready to face another day and another challenge. But I think it’s fair to say that we all from time to time have uncomfortable nights experiencing bad dreams, insomnia, or restlessness. However if this becomes regular and chronic…