Category archive: Just a thought

    The term alcoholic normally conjures up an image of someone who is always drunk, dishevelled and dysfunctional. Someone who is perhaps unemployed and aggressive toward others. However a high functioning alcoholic (HFA), is someone who is able to hold down a job and maintain relationships. An HFA may not realise they have a problem or…

    A while ago I crossed paths with an old friend I’ll call Dan I hadn’t seen since we were about eighteen. He was delivering goods to a shop as I was passing. I didn’t recognise him at first as he was wearing glasses and had gone bald, like his dad had before him. He didn’t…

    Ever get the feeling you’re no good at what you do? Worry that you’re not breaking a sweat when trying and that someone sooner or later is going to see through you as the fraud that you are? We all have feelings of doubt from time to time but sometimes when we are consistently unable…

    When we think of obsessive compulsive disorder, or OCD as it is commonly known as, we often think of patterns of obsessive thoughts. These thoughts are usually associated with an intense fear of something dreadful happening. The compulsions that follow usually involve some kind of ritual to try to prevent the dreadful thing happening. For…

    Emotional neglect differs from emotional abuse. Abuse normally involves doing something to someone else that causes some kind of harm. This could be for example name calling. Neglect may involve failure of say a parent to show a level of attention or affection to provide emotional well-being to a child. Emotional neglect also takes place…

    Abuse is all about control and manipulation, but what is meant by ‘reactive abuse’? Imagine a relationship where one person is abusive towards the other. However what if the abuser claimed to be the victim and blamed the other for being abusive towards them in the way they react and respond? When one person holds the…

    The second part of last weeks subject. Being in a relationship with a toxic person can be unhealthy. Your self-confidence and self-esteem can begin to suffer the longer you are exposed to them. Here are some behaviours of a toxic person.   They are envious and jealous. They criticise your achievements and ambitions, show delight…

    Being in a relationship with a toxic person can be unhealthy. Your self-confidence and self-esteem can begin to suffer the longer you are exposed to them. Here are some behaviours of a toxic person.   They have high expectations of you. You are there for their pleasure and benefit. You are there to respect, honour…

    Usually when a relationship goes wrong it’s the communication where the problems begin. In fact communication, or lack of it may be the underlying theme running throughout most of the problems in your relationship. If we improve communication we may improve our relationships. Differences, disagreements and arguments can often be traced back to difficulties in…

    There can be many reasons for infidelity, most commonly referred to as cheating. For example revenge for some previous slight, lack of fulfilment, lack of love at home, the love of attention, to feel desired, to improve self-esteem and so on. Sometimes people just crave the excitement, want to make their partner jealous or want…

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