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Passive aggressive behaviour usually comes from someone being put down or suppressed as a child. The feeling of resentment stays with them throughout their adult life, and they find it hard to break the connection between authority and those old feelings of worthlessness. Passive aggressive behaviour is usually triggered by a desire to please others. Reasons may include trying to…

Are you currently or have you ever faced someone who continually makes your life a misery? A bully is a person who tries to make others feel powerless, worthless and afraid. Bullying has three main features: deliberate aggression, pain and distress, and unequal power. Bullies come from many different backgrounds, and are of all ages. Typical bully characteristics include coming…

Emotional abuse can damage a person’s self esteem and confidence. Given that quite often or own sense of self worth often depends on where we think we sit with others people can end up feeling devalued and worthless when being abused emotionally. The shame and secrecy of what’s happening usually allows the abuse to continue as…

Continuing from yesterday here are the other 6 irrational beliefs from Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy (REBT).   6. The belief that avoidance is easier than to facing lifes difficulties Instead avoidance is usually much harder in the long run. 7. The belief that we need something stronger or greater than ourselves on which to rely Instead of the idea…

According to Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy (REBT) we have 12 irrational beliefs that can cause us distress. The first five are: 1. The belief that it is a necessity for adults to be loved by significant others for almost everything they do. Instead of concentrating on our own self-respect,on loving rather than on being loved. 2. The belief that certain acts…

We grieve when a loved one dies. It’s a perfectly normal and natural emotional response to loss. However grief is not just ‘sadness’. It is often a progression of different emotions such as shock, anger, anxiety, numbness etc. The grieving process, in which many emotions are experienced can take days, weeks, months or years. Some people may experience…

A narcissistic personality is usually characterized by a pattern of grandiosity, either in fantasy or behavior. There is also an overwhelming need for admiration. Most strikingly however is a complete lack of empathy toward other people. Narcissists usually believe they are of great importance in everybody’s life while displaying disdainful and patronizing attitudes towards others and their experiences, needs etc….

Fear of intimacy is not just the fear of romance or sex. It can be a fear of our connection to others. According to attachment theory infants who are not held, nurtured, encouraged and supported have difficulty thriving. Fear of intimacy could be because we have a fear of being abandoned, rejected or betrayed emotionally….

It seems to me these days we live in a society where finding someone to blame is more important than finding ways to put things right. It has become the blame culture. I guess if we find a cause then we’re letting ourselves off the hook. So if everything is everyone else’s fault then how…