Tag archive: gas lighting

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Diversion Tactics of Manipulative People (2)

October 7, 2018Darren MageeBlog category 1, Just a thought

Following from the previous article on different diversion tactics, here are a few more employed by toxic, manipulative people. Misrepresentation This tactic is a way of making your thoughts, feelings or opinions seem irrational or absurd. It is a way of drawing attention to your flaws or lack of experience. For example, if you were…

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Neglect and Abuse in Relationships

December 19, 2016Darren MageeBlog category 1, Just a thought, Latest News

Is it okay to be in a relationship where you feel as if you don’t matter? When is it okay to not have your needs met? Is it reasonable to be told you’re selfish and wrong for having needs, values, and boundaries? Ever been left sometimes feeling as if you really are selfish for even having needs?…

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Breaking away from Gas Lighting

May 16, 2016Darren MageeBlog category 1

I believe there are two things you need to bring to any relationship, whether it’s with your partner, your neighbour, your employer or whoever. The first is self-respect. I think that self-respect is a good place to start and a good healthy thing to bring to any relationship. The second is communication. I have noticed…

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"Thank you Darren for giving me the space to just be, and explore my concerns in my own time, without judgment or pressure. Although I found the sessions difficult and some of what I wanted to discuss uncomfortable (for me) I valued the respectful and calm environment you created which allowed me to open up. I learnt a lot about myself, and continue to challenge my negative thinking when I feel the thoughts creeping back into my mind, little things you said, have stuck with me, creating a positive change in my thinking. To anyone who is considering counseling.... just make the call, you will not regret it."
G from Belfast
"Thank you Darren for all the help and support I received recently. I can hardly recognise the depressed, lethargic person writing in my journal in the early days from the restored, motivated self I have become after receiving counselling support. Indeed I would say I have regained an almost youthful enthusiasm for life which had been missing for some time. Even at the initial appointment I was able to relax for the first time in ages and found I could easily talk about the worries I had and the blockages they were creating in my life and relationships. Darren's calm empathy and insightful questions, suggestions and instructions gave me a space to honestly accept myself and then move forward with excellent new tools for thinking and acting that changed my whole approach to living. As well as being listened to properly, probably for the first time ever (and that alone brings great relief and a feeling of being sustained) I can honestly say I have also learned lessons and techniques that will be with me for life and I feel as if I will not look back - once you learn and practice them, the tools and the insights are always there for you. Thank you Darren and very best wishes,"
R from Belfast
I found counselling helped me to understand my difficulties, then with my counsellors help was able to develop better ways of managing. Thank you Darren
A from Belfast
'Darren helped me explore why I felt as low as I did and helped me develop better coping strategies for difficult situations. He was attentive and focused on me throughout the sessions.'
M from Portadown
'Counselling has helped me learn how to challenge my negative thinking, reframe situations and let go of things I can't control.'
J from Belfast
Sentient Counselling has helped me to see the light at the end of a tunnel when Ii thought there was almost none. Talking my concerns and problems through with a professional counselor has made a great difference to my life in a matter of weeks, I have found a new way forward’
S from Lisburn