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Stalking is defined as repeated and persistent unwanted communications, approaches and intrusions into someone’s life, into their privacy, and there are many levels to it. It can a form of mental assault. This video looks at the different kinds of stalker, (rejected, resentful, incompetent, intimacy seeker and predator) as well as the difference between when…

Many relationships go through difficulties from time to time and many can be resolved. However after studying over 2,000 couples for more than two decades Dr John Gottman found there are four attitudes and behaviours present in a relationship around how couples relate to each other that can predict with some accuracy relationship failure if…

DARVO is an acronym that stands for deny, attack and reverse victim offender. It’s a very effective tactic for a narcissist as it can confuse the Hell out of their victims and can shame, sometimes even frighten them into silence.

The intent of the DARVO method is to silence victims through denial, confusion, invalidation, minimising or intimidation while they’re attacking the evidence, the victims credibility, their claims and also claiming that they are the victim while they’re doing it. Once you recognise the pattern. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

People Pleasing is much more than just being kind and considerate or just being nice to others. With constant people pleasing behaviours what we often see as a heightened sensitivity to the moods, the feelings, the needs of others.

Origins The person-centred counselling approach to therapy emphasizes the relationship between the therapist and the client. It was developed by a psychologist called Carl Rogers. He had been primarily working with children before turning his attention to working with adults. Rogers believed that everyone has the need to feel heard, listened to, understood in order…

‘Flying Monkey’ is the term given to those agents and allies that collude with an abusive person. Their role is to continue carrying out tormenting the victim on their behalf. If it’s during the relationship, the abuser gets to abuse by proxy as it’s other people that are getting their hands dirty. If it’s after…

Men’s Alliance NI is a unique peer support group for Male Victims of Domestic Abuse, operating through a private group on Facebook. There are hundreds of members who are victims and survivors of Domestic Abuse, Support Professionals, Social Workers and Counsellors all there and ready to help, advise and support any new members, and covering…

In this video Darren Magee discusses embarrassment, guilt, shame and when and how that shame becomes toxic. Carl Jung described shame as the ‘soul eating emotion’ Behaviours: Social anxiety Avoidance Addiction Co-Dependancy Emotional Dysregulation: Overwhelming fear Low Self-esteem Low Self-confidence My own self-loathing Beliefs: I am bad I am no good Where it comes from…