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In my first podcast I talk with Dr Ruth Ann Harpur. She is a clinical psychologist with experience and expertise in relationships, and different personality types. We had a chat about the dynamics that take place in unhealthy, toxic, abusive relationships, some of the obstacles to recovery, the impact of abuse and some ideas to…

Echoism is a term used to describe a personality trait or pattern of behavior characterised by a tendency to minimise one’s own needs, desires, and opinions while focusing excessively on the needs and desires of others. It is often seen as the opposite or counterpart to narcissism. This term “echoism” was coined by Dr. Craig…

This video looks at some of the ways narcissists emotionally and psychologically destabilise other people. Covering examples such as being contrary, undermining, cruel humour and flirting openly with others, and the motivations behind the behaviour.

People pleasers tend to put the needs, thoughts and feelings of others before their own. This video looks at some of the common behaviours of people pleasing such as over apologising and over thinking. Looking also at some of the common motivations such as fear of conflict, lack of boundaries and low assertiveness, and some…

An Internet troll, sometimes referred to as a cyber bully, is someone who spends time on social media and online networking sites trying to draw other people into contentious, uncivil and sometimes utterly pointless conversations. Some hide anonymously behind their computers, phones and tablets or may even use fake accounts to cause misery for others…

Narcissistic people have a huge sense of entitlement but a weak ego and a false sense of self. They require constant attention, validation and admiration from others, often referred to as their narcissistic supply. But what happens when they aren’t as entitled as they thought, their schemes backfire or they lose their supply? This video…

To be ostracised, excluded by others can be one of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse in the sense that the aggressors don’t have to actually do anything except ignore their target. It can happen at work, in communities, friendship groups and even families. In this video I outline what it is, the affects…

Spiritual Abuse is quite an insidious form of coercive control as it is often carried out by a person in a position of ‘moral or religious superiority’, or someone the victims admire and look to for guidance and support. The abuse is often carried out whilst claiming to be either for the victim’s ‘own good’,…

An energy vampire is someone who takes advantage of other peoples good will and kind nature, draining their time, energy and resources and exhausting their patience. They are often self absorbed and can show a lack of critical thinking, self awareness, emotional intelligence or empathy, and leave others mentally and emotionally exhausted. In this video…