Category archive: Just a thought

Responsibility can be defined as taking accountability for something. We have responsibilities in work, as parents or as members of society. Sometimes however, we can find it difficult to accept or take responsibility for our actions, beliefs, behaviours or duties. Nothing to do with me Dave worked in a company that designed and built stands…

  Loneliness is not the same as being alone. We can enjoy our own company. We may even prefer to be on our own at times. When we want to be alone, we can find it restful and peaceful. We can become quite creative. Loneliness, however, is not having anyone to see or talk to…

“Currently the death rate sits at one per person” Voddie Baucham Thanatophobia The fear of death, or death anxiety is known as Thanatophobia. It is often linked to other anxieties or phobias such as health anxiety, post-traumatic stress and panic attacks. Thanatophobia is a form of anxiety characterized by a fear of one’s own death…

The Drama Triangle There are times when we all react to situations as victims. There are times when we really are the victim. Other times though maybe not so much. However, when we don’t take any responsibility for ourselves we will always react as a victim.  We can feel taken advantage of or betrayed. We…

Here is the last in the series of diversion tactics used by manipulative people to distract others from their own malignant behaviours. Hoovering Narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths and other malignant toxic people often begin a relationship with you by being charming, polite, attentive and kind. This is known as hoovering. After a while, boundaries begin to…

Following in the series of malignant diversionary tactics used by malignant and toxic people, here are a few more strategies used to distract and confuse their victims. Nonsensical conversations Circular conversations to disorientate and gaslight are a common diversion tactic of narcissists to confuse and discredit you. They aim to distract you from the main…

Following from the previous articles, below are different behaviours for recognizing diversion tactics used by toxic people, used to distract and confuse their victims. Loving and devaluing A common tactic used by narcissists is to charm you until you are hooked to want some kind of relationship with them. They will flatter you while berating…

Following from the previous articles on different the diversion tactics of toxic people, here are a few more employed by toxic, manipulative people to distract from the issue at hand. Gaslighting Gaslighting is a term used to describe an insidious act of manipulation. It is when someone tries to distort your experience and reality. It…

Following from the previous article on different diversion tactics, here are a few more employed by toxic, manipulative people. Misrepresentation This tactic is a way of making your thoughts, feelings or opinions seem irrational or absurd. It is a way of drawing attention to your flaws or lack of experience. For example, if you were…