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Tag archive: abuse
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How many times have you heard phrases like, “You have to earn my respect”, or, “Respect has to be earned”? I have heard that said many times in my life. There have been times when I’ve heard one person say it to another. Sometimes it has been said to me or about me. Other times I…
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I believe there are two things you need to bring to any relationship, whether it’s with your partner, your neighbour, your employer or whoever. The first is self-respect. I think that self-respect is a good place to start and a good healthy thing to bring to any relationship. The second is communication. I have noticed…
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Gas lighting is an unusual term for what is possibly one of the most insidious forms of emotional manipulation and abuse. The term comes from an old black and white movie where one of the characters manipulates the lighting in the house and when his wife comments on it he tells her it’s only her…
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Trauma Bonding Trauma bonding refers to the attachment victims of abuse or neglect form with their abuser. Sometimes that attachment takes the form of obsessive thoughts of hatred or revenge. More commonly though it refers to a fear of, and loyalty towards the perpetrator. Because of that loyalty the victim may sometimes confuse this fear…
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Trauma bonding was a term first used by Patrick Carnes. Also referred to sometimes as Stockholm Syndrome, it is commonly associated with the submissive and loyal relationship that can sometimes develop between a hostage and their kidnapper. However the term actually refers to a wide range of emotions and reactions in any relationship where there…
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What do we mean by dissociation? Often our reality is often shaped by perceptions and beliefs. When these perceptions get a bit disconnected our sense of reality becomes uncertain and even blurred. For example sometimes we may be reading a book and forget what we’ve just read. Other times we may be having a conversation…
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The book ‘When it’s Him‘ is available now on Kindle through Amazon. It is a short book for men about different types of abuse and how it affects them. Please click on the link to take you to it. #whenitshim #abusedmen
Emotional neglect differs from emotional abuse. Abuse normally involves doing something to someone else that causes some kind of harm. This could be for example name calling. Neglect may involve failure of say a parent to show a level of attention or affection to provide emotional well-being to a child. Emotional neglect also takes place…
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Abuse is all about control and manipulation, but what is meant by ‘reactive abuse’? Imagine a relationship where one person is abusive towards the other. However what if the abuser claimed to be the victim and blamed the other for being abusive towards them in the way they react and respond? Click to view my video…
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The second part of last weeks subject. Being in a relationship with a toxic person can be unhealthy. Your self-confidence and self-esteem can begin to suffer the longer you are exposed to them. Here are some behaviours of a toxic person. They are envious and jealous. They criticise your achievements and ambitions, show delight…