Tag archive: relationships

      Loneliness is not the same as being alone. We can enjoy our own company. We may even prefer to be on our own at times. When we want to be alone, we can find it restful and peaceful. We can become quite creative. Loneliness, however, is not having anyone to see or talk to…

    The Drama Triangle There are times when we all react to situations as victims. There are times when we really are the victim. Other times though maybe not so much. However, when we don’t take any responsibility for ourselves we will always react as a victim.  We can feel taken advantage of or betrayed. We…

    Here is the last in the series of diversion tactics used by manipulative people to distract others from their own malignant behaviours. Hoovering Narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths and other malignant toxic people often begin a relationship with you by being charming, polite, attentive and kind. This is known as hoovering. After a while, boundaries begin to…

    It’s World Mental Health Day 2018. Many people, organisations and governments mark today with different events, activities and social media posts to draw attention to how important our mental health is. The UK government has just announced a minister for suicide prevention to tackle the stigma around and prevent suicide. Our mental health is important….

    Following from the previous articles on different the diversion tactics of toxic people, here are a few more employed by toxic, manipulative people to distract from the issue at hand. Gaslighting Gaslighting is a term used to describe an insidious act of manipulation. It is when someone tries to distort your experience and reality. It…

    Following from the previous article on different diversion tactics, here are a few more employed by toxic, manipulative people. Misrepresentation This tactic is a way of making your thoughts, feelings or opinions seem irrational or absurd. It is a way of drawing attention to your flaws or lack of experience. For example, if you were…

    Toxic manipulative people often engage in diversion tactics. These are behaviours that exploit, confuse, demean and hurt those around them. Sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissists often use tactics to confuse and distort the experiences and reality of their victims as a form of control and abuse. However, others can use these tactics as well. The distortion…

    Anger When we think of anger we often think of raised voices and aggressive behaviour. There are however different styles of anger, therefore different ways in which we experience and communicate our anger. If we don’t understand our anger or communicate and deal with it appropriately we will either explode or implode. Neither can be…

    In the different areas of psychology there are what are referred to as defence mechanisms. These are ways in which we defend ourselves against unpleasant thoughts and feelings. Most defence mechanisms are automatic. They are instinctive. We act in a way that we often don’t know what we’re doing. There is nothing wrong with defence…

    The Power of Empathy The power of empathy is often overlooked. We can all look at someone with a bruise and recognise that they’ve hurt themselves. Empathy is that ability to see the bruise and say, ‘wow that looks sore’. Empathy is what we feel from others when they show they understand, acknowledge and share…

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