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Passive aggressive behaviour usually comes from someone being put down or suppressed as a child. The feeling of resentment stays with them throughout their adult life, and they find it hard to break the connection between authority and those old feelings of worthlessness. Passive aggressive behaviour is usually triggered by a desire to please others. Reasons may include trying to…

Our own sense of identity and worth often depends on the strength of our relationships. We can fall into despair when our closest relationship fails. Our closest relationship, to our partner, is based on intimacy and trust. If it isn’t there or if it deteriorates our health and happiness suffer. It’s normal for relationships feel the pressure and stress of everyday life….

Are you currently or have you ever faced someone who continually makes your life a misery? A bully is a person who tries to make others feel powerless, worthless and afraid. Bullying has three main features: deliberate aggression, pain and distress, and unequal power. Bullies come from many different backgrounds, and are of all ages. Typical bully characteristics include coming…

Emotional abuse can damage a person’s self esteem and confidence. Given that quite often or own sense of self worth often depends on where we think we sit with others people can end up feeling devalued and worthless when being abused emotionally. The shame and secrecy of what’s happening usually allows the abuse to continue as…

Here are 10 unhelpful thinking habits that, if we’re honest, have left most of us feeling miserable, anxious or angry most times when we’ve engaged with them. Negative focus – This is focusing on your weaknesses and dwelling on negative possibilities such as, “What if it’s really serious?” Emotional reasoning – This is feeling strongly enough so it must be…

Anger Management is important because anger can damage relationships. It can impair judgments, and have a negative effect on how others see you. It can effect, even hurt you in other ways if it gets out of control. For example it may hurt your career. Criticism when constructive can be a tool for improvement. If just…

Counselling is a safe and confidential way of exploring addiction and the affect it is has on your life. A counsellor can help you make sense of your situation, identify your choices and offer support throughout the process of change. Escapism can draw people to the Internet. People wanting to relieve stress, pressure and anxiety and other life…

I was having coffee with an old friend when we got talking about how our minds tend to sometimes wander off in directions, sometimes at the expense of the here and now. So just a thought for today I’d like to share with you following our conversation.  She said to me, “Sometimes we feel sad…

Continuing from yesterday here are the other 6 irrational beliefs from Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy (REBT).   6. The belief that avoidance is easier than to facing lifes difficulties Instead avoidance is usually much harder in the long run. 7. The belief that we need something stronger or greater than ourselves on which to rely Instead of the idea…