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So why counselling? Why Now? Once in a while life gets on top of us. We get disappointed, frustrated and angry. But if we feel stuck, hurt, or depressed and alone over a long period of time then something could be wrong and we may need help.  Many issues, experiences and difficulties we have cause us to fear we…

The way you hold yourself speaks volumes about you. Notice how people who mumble while they look at their feet don’t exactly inspire confidence in those around them, but those who make eye contact and speak clearly do. Here are some ideas to help with assertiveness and confidence. 1. Keep your back straight and your chin up. Avoid…

Stress is perfectly normal. In fact some people thrive under stress. Some even say their best work is when they’re under pressure. However not all difficult situations or demands on us are necessarily a stressful event. Sometimes we become stressed according to our ability to manage in different situations. Is someone bullying you? Do you dwell on things…

A victim or a survivor? This is really a question you need to explore and answer for yourself. If someone is abused so much, and the perpetrator knows it is safe for them to do so with no fear of consequences, then that person is victimised. If however someone leaves an abusive relationship they may consider themselves a survivor having come out…

Big boys don’t cry ….Well actually they do. In fact the ‘bigger’ they are I believe the more comfortable they are with being able to show their emotion, as well as cry. In today’s culture many men suffer some form of abuse in one way or another just as women do. Abuse can be seen as…

With so many organisations, agencies and health centres offering various types of counselling, what exactly is it and why choose private counselling? Not understanding what counselling is or what it’s about can put many people off asking for the support they need. Instead they may internalize their difficulties and experiences. This in turn can lead to further anxiety,…

Sometimes during the counselling process it can seem as if clients are working in opposition to their therapists. The clients may not want to explore particular issues, change a particular behaviour or challenge some long held belief. In counselling this is known as client resistance. This behaviour may seem like a blockage to progress but it isn’t…

With age, with trauma, with so many demands on us our memories tend to slow down a bit. Have you ever been in a conversation only to forget what the other persons just said? Or watched a television programme only to forget what it was about? How about reading something, getting to the end of the…

Making peace with the past can be such a difficult concept for some people. Especially if we have be grieved or victimized in some way. We often define ourselves by our experiences, our relationships, our significant others even when it’s uncomfortable to us. For example people who have suffered abuse often refer to themselves as victims,…