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It seems to me these days we live in a society where finding someone to blame is more important than finding ways to put things right. It has become the blame culture. I guess if we find a cause then we’re letting ourselves off the hook. So if everything is everyone else’s fault then how…

Always being anxious, always worrying and assuming the worst will happen can impact negatively on your jobs, choices, relationships and can stop you living your life in a full and healthy way. If you want to change anxious thinking to a style that’s less distressing or upsetting into a way of thinking that’s more realistic…

A verbal abuser has the same underlying issues of control and domination as any other kind of abuser. Abusers generally feel happier if they make someone doubt themselves or back down. Then they behave as if nothing has happened as they feel more in control. Verbal abuse comes in a myriad of forms, and although some…

Like all forms of abuse, spiritual abuse is when one party inflicts their will and control over another aggressively, but in this case using spirituality as a mask. Some people will try to convince others that they have the right and the rightiousness to be obeyed, they are never wrong. Moreover it is their responsibility…

Some people fall in love at first sight and get married immediately. Others spend hours deciding whether to wear black or grey socks. Seeing the world as yes or no, black or white, or indeed different shades of gray can affect people’s choices, whether choosing a job, a relationship or which politician candidate to vote for. Those with conflicting feelings…

To help face your feelings, particularly the ones that cause us distress, it can be helpful to begin seeing them in a different light. Like the monster under the bed we feared as a child, when the light came on we had no reason to fear. For example anger is something we fear. We hate…

I believe that irrational thinking distorts reality. it’s fair to say we all have different perspectives however irrational thinking involves illogical ways of evaluating ourselves and others. It can block us from our goals and can help create distressing and immobilizing emotions leading to self defeating behaviours. These self defeating behaviours then lead to self fulfilling prophecies….

If you have work related stress, among other things you may find you don’t take breaks, perhaps bring work home with you or are always in a rush to get things done. Many staff members these days agree that the demands of their jobs seriously interfere with their personal life. They also recognize that If they…

Suffering from low self esteem can get in the way of achieving your full potential and personal goals. It can lead to anxiety, stress, loneliness and depression. Those with low self esteem are plagued by a negative image they have of themselves. Our self esteem, sense of self worth, is often not so much what we think…