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There are many different defusion techniques to reduce stressful and tense situations. We have different ways of managing our interactions and responses in order to alleviate heightened emotions. One way to defuse unhelpful, distressing and self-defeating thoughts is to step back and look at them for what they really are, not what we believe they are….

Personalizing feedback and criticism can often lead to all sorts of difficulties with our self concept, esteem and confidence. We can sometimes end up feeling anxious, and even constructive criticism can feel like harsh judgement if we take it the wrong way. It can damage our relationships if we filter what’s being said to us a particular…

I think it’s fair to say we don’t like to be blamed for things. Worse still if we’re innocent of any wrong doing or if someone is ascribing motives to us that are inaccurate. Yet blaming others is something we ourselves tend to when things go awry. Calling someone an idiot or telling them they never get…

Atychiphobia is the fear of being wrong, or rather the fear of being told we’re wrong. It can be one of the most debilitating emotional conditions we could ever experience.  Understanding this fear, and where it impacts you can help towards challenging and addressing it. See my Youtube video on atychiphobia The fear of being wrong can manifest itself…

People with a sex addiction believe if they could just have great unlimited sex with a partner, their sexual addiction would be solved. This isn’t true and those people are seriously disappointed when they find that approach doesn’t work. Like most addictions, sex addiction is more than just the physical act. The sexual rituals and outlets create a…

Here are some tips which some people find helpful in overcoming social phobia / anxiety. Prepare to relax – imagine a tense situation whilst relaxing in a hot bath, or listening to soothing music. Learn to let go Focus on your surroundings – to help take the focus off yourself. How many windows are there? What…

So what is social phobia / anxiety? Most people get a little self-conscious from time to time or feel shy around others, but social phobia, or social anxiety feels significantly worse. People who suffer from a social phobia suffer from more than just shyness, often they experience panic and terror. Just thinking about mingling with others can…

The way you hold yourself speaks volumes about you. Notice how people who mumble while they look at their feet don’t exactly inspire confidence in those around them, but those who make eye contact and speak clearly do. Here are some ideas to help with assertiveness and confidence. 1. Keep your back straight and your chin up. Avoid…

Stress is perfectly normal. In fact some people thrive under stress. Some even say their best work is when they’re under pressure. However not all difficult situations or demands on us are necessarily a stressful event. Sometimes we become stressed according to our ability to manage in different situations. Is someone bullying you? Do you dwell on things…