Tag archive: anxiety

The way you hold yourself speaks volumes about you. Notice how people who mumble while they look at their feet don’t exactly inspire confidence in those around them, but those who make eye contact and speak clearly do. Here are some ideas to help with assertiveness and confidence. 1. Keep your back straight and your chin up. Avoid…

Stress is perfectly normal. In fact some people thrive under stress. Some even say their best work is when they’re under pressure. However not all difficult situations or demands on us are necessarily a stressful event. Sometimes we become stressed according to our ability to manage in different situations. Is someone bullying you? Do you dwell on things…

Big boys don’t cry ….Well actually they do. In fact the ‘bigger’ they are I believe the more comfortable they are with being able to show their emotion, as well as cry. In today’s culture many men suffer some form of abuse in one way or another just as women do. Abuse can be seen as…

With age, with trauma, with so many demands on us our memories tend to slow down a bit. Have you ever been in a conversation only to forget what the other persons just said? Or watched a television programme only to forget what it was about? How about reading something, getting to the end of the…

Making peace with the past can be such a difficult concept for some people. Especially if we have be grieved or victimized in some way. We often define ourselves by our experiences, our relationships, our significant others even when it’s uncomfortable to us. For example people who have suffered abuse often refer to themselves as victims,…

A sociopath can take great delight in making others lives a misery. Nothing stands in their way and they will go to almost any length to get what they want. A sociopath may pledge undying love to someone yet turn out to be married.  It’s like they can lovingly caress someone while gently twisting a knife in their ribs….

When we recognize that anxiety is having a real fear of having no control over something very important to us, then we need to acknowledge there are some things we do not have any control over and can free ourselves by learning to let go. We cannot change the past yet we seem to drag it…

Avoidant personality disorder can be characterized by a pattern of feelings of inadequacy, sensitivity to what others think and social inhibition. It can be quite a stifling and restrictive way to live. Some typical behaviours include: Restraint in intimate relationships because of fear of being shamed or ridiculed Inhibitions due to feelings of inadequacy Avoiding activities that…

Reframing isn’t ignoring problems but seeing a different point of view about how things may be. It is like seeing things from a different angle. Reframing offers people alternative ways of viewing difficult situations. It involves putting a different perspective on things that are concerning, worrying or problematic. An example could be someone saying, “I just feel anxious all the time…